If you are responsible and if you are open, honesty will automatically follow. In fact honesty can be visualized as a very natural expression of your honest. When you observe something and acknowledge it you need not pretend. Just consider things as they are.

While honesty is highly essential to save my marriage it may not be confused with being right or justified. There is no inherent relationship between them. Honesty is not also an attempt to convince anyone. It is simply acknowledging things that are real. Things for you would be as you see them and understand them not trying to find out some inner meanings or motivations.

Man can not live in the past. It is gone for ever. Man cannot live in future. It is yet to come and you do not know what is hidden there. It is the present that we live in and all true communications should take place in the present only, neither in the past nor in the future.

You must recognize that this is the moment that is all there is and lamenting for the past or waiting for the future may not pay.

Last but not least is acceptance. Once again you may not confuse acceptance as passive putting up with something. It is also not tolerating something that is not acceptable.

It is the result of honest communication that takes place between the partners listening and stating things openly without restrictions. Most of the marriage counseling is based on such primary facts.